Why Do We Fail?

• Your Ideals are Messed Up.
  
  Sometimes, to be successful, you have be flipping off some of your ideals. "I won't work with disrespectful subordinates", "I won't heed to bossy authorities" - are some thought processes which might not get you too far.Sometimes, you have to suck it up. If you want to be treated like a king from day one, chances are you'll be stabbed in the main market even while you run your campaign.
  
• You Goals are Shaky.
  
  Now you want to be a CEO of a startup, and you start to lay out your plan the next morning. Great idea. Go for it. But, you encounter a hurdle with the financing a day later, and you let your project go down the drain. Suddenly, next week you want to become a stockbroker. No, no, no, no, no. Not that easy, you see. You've got to face the fact that you are not omnipotent.Choose a goal and stick to it. No matter how bad it may seem. Goal switching is one of the major causes of failure.
  
• Choose Wisely.
  
  For those who get the Indiana Jones reference, "you're the man". Those who haven't, first go Google the reference, then come back. You need to see the underlying purpose of your dreams. Suppose you dream about steak one day, the next day, you dream about tofu, then burgers, then salmon. Doesn't mean you want to be meat-lover one day, then a vegan, then a junkie, and finally a cat. It means you are hungry and you want food. So, choose the one best suited to you. Most goals you'll have in your life will be different forms of "fame" and "money". So, follow the way which seems most feasible to you. Break down your dream into simpler components. You'll be a lot more healthier and less confused.
  
• There is a word called "Farfetched".
  
  Call "bullcrap" to those "you can be anyone" selling people. They are selling you that probably because of one of the following reasons -
  
  1. They want to sell you something which will help you "be anyone".
  2. They have recently come across some great success story or quotation, and they want to share it with you.
  3. They are your parents and they just want to see you happy.
  
  I am not saying you have to limit yourself, but, it's good to ascertain the scalability of your dreams from time to time. Heck, I want to land a job at Google, so, what do I do? Do, I directly go apply to their head offices and get shot down? No, I try my hand at small programming challenges, raise my level slowly. Before trying to fight off a lion, it's a preferable idea to see if your cat listens to you.
  
• You dream too much.
  
  So, when do you dream too much? Right, when you sleep too much. Today, you want a startup, you don't have an idea, but, you are attracted by the seemingly lucrative life and fame of a successful startup. Tomorrow you want to be a professional hacker. You can't code worth crap, but, you are mesmerized by how cool it sounds on television. These are not failures, this is just you waking up from a day dream and realizing, "Fuck! I slept through the class again".
  
• You have embraced Failure.
  
  Remarkably enough, there are is a class of people who are exactly opposite to the kind mentioned in the "farfetched" point. The "mood-breakers". They will join the team with an attitude like, "What's the point of all this?". Or worse still, the "Fake Tyler Durden"s, who are all about the place with, "This is corporate greed.", "You are not defined by your job or your money". Fact is - you are. I'd like to see one person who keeps worshipping that brilliant movie (and missing it's actual message) live one night, just one night in a place like the one Tyler used to have.
  
• Your Resources are "Questionable".
  
  Little story from back in the days. I had this friend who used to study his ass off all throughout the year. Attend every class, ass-kiss every teacher who needed ass-kissing, jotted down every word, and prepared extensive notes. I had this other friend, who used to borrow this guy's notes, and study for a couple of days and score much more than him. The second guy's secret. He knew what to study. I remember my school mathematics teacher tell me, "Work hard. But, like a horse, not a donkey." So, before you read a thousand books on a subject, ask yourself, how much of this will actually be required to pursue the end goal I seek.
  
• The Final Line.
  
  Now that we have taken care of all that. You are setting a validated goal, you are determined on it, you work hard for it, and even then you failed? Luck. You can win when luck is not with you, you can win when luck is with you, but, you can't win when luck decides to screw you over, and over and over again. You'll just have to keep trying and hope luck's patience runs out earlier than yours.

Believe me when I say, I know a lot about failures. I am 21, and I've failed at more things than most people even try ever in their lifetime. So, I hope you become more successful than me. Just kidding, I don't.